So before we begin, I usually do a piece on the 5th November, something tied into revolutions and what not but unforeseen circumstances last night directed my attention elsewhere, I’m back today and rather than a late bit piece about the Million Mask March (If you can’t see why thousands of people are angry at the government by now, you’re part of the problem) I want to discuss some terms that are flung around in the discussion of gender equality and iron out some confusion surrounding them. I previously discussed why feminism is called feminism on another post (the link to which is here – https://oldmanwolferants.wordpress.com/2015/11/02/ugly-words/) but there’s still some confusion about feminism and how it differentiates from meninism and humanism, which are vastly different and even misused terms, as is the term feminism itself.
To recap, rather than explain in full all over again, feminism is a social movement to support the equal rights and opportunities of all genders, the focus is largely on women because women are the ones denied a lot of opportunities and misrepresented in the media. A tax on tampons but not on condoms, the idea of ‘independent women’ being a comedy trope because it’s somehow hilarious if a woman decides she is happy and single, one in five women being the victim of sexual assault during college and university education – all sure signs we live in a world where, presently, it sucks to be a woman. Feminism, therefore, is the fight to change that by constructing a more gender balanced system of authority and teaching future generations correct social etiquette surrounding woman, whilst combatting misguided concepts of the past (i.e we should teach people that shouting “Nice arse!” on the street is not paying someone a compliment because if it is, why is it only vulnerable women getting these compliments? Never heard myself getting the catcall “Hey mate, you look prepared for your interview!” or “I am being strictly platonic when I point out to you that you are an attractive fellow man!”. Catcalls are not compliments, they’re lewd cries from men asserting their dominance, they are degrading shouts that tell a woman she is little more than a fascination to him). Steve Shives describes this by equating feminism to the LGBT+ movement – it’s called ‘gay rights’ not because gay people should be made more important than straight people but because gay people (and all other sexual orientations beyond hetero) are the ones being ignored, declined and marginalised, just like women are in the world of men.
The ‘fem’ in feminism is still enough to dissuade some people from supporting the cause though and for this, these people describe themselves as humanists. I would like to point out to you reader that this is a misuse of the term humanist, a ridiculous use coined by celebrities who were unaware that humanism is something entirely different. Humanism is the belief in the value and agency of human beings, as individuals and as a species, over faith in a god or deities or a special invisible power that connects all livings thing or whatever. In simpler terms, humanists believe in a world that was created through random happenstance of the universe and is now being shaped and moulded by humans, that it is our responsibility as a species to look after this planet and the life upon it not because God says so but because we live here – a religion, such as it were, based on not shitting in the bed you sleep in. Humanism goes hand in hand with science, believing scientific research and falsifiable evidence to be the key to understanding the universe and not reliance on prayer or holy scriptures. I would like to state this is my own personal belief system – I think we are all a bunch of hyper-intelligent shaved monkeys clinging to a ball of mud and water that is spinning around an infinite void and we should be nice little monkeys because that is a nice thing to do, it is much better than killing each other. I could write reams and reams on my beliefs and I perhaps would but I fear it’d seem condescending and self-appreciative as I get VERY floral with my wording when I bust out the philosophical shit. Humanism, in terms of the gender equality debate, should therefore promote total equality and would be on side with feminism if one were true to the ideals of humanism but it would not object to the title of feminism like some seem to think.
Last but by all means least is meninism. Meninism defines itself as the social movement defending the rights of men, the voice for those who take offence to being labelled as rapists or thugs and whilst there are issues about the fair treatment of men to be resolved (i.e fixing the ‘absent black dad’ stereotype as it is a harmful trope, raising awareness of male victims of rape and domestic abuse, disestablishing the enforced standards of physical strength and dominance on all boys). Meninism, however, is as much a force for positive change as Britain First or the Ku Klux Klan – rage-filled groups of disgruntled white boys angry that the people they want to bully and harass and victimise without judgment now have a voice and even their fellow man will call them a misogynist or a cretin for their viewpoints. Meninism has yet, as far as I can see, to do anything for the greater good of their own membership, let alone the human race as a whole. Meninism is just the seedy underworld of the internet, a hovel of grumpy ‘friend-zoned’ douchebags complaining they aren’t getting women falling at their feet for them or lost out on a job to a woman or someone of a different ethnicity. Steve Shives, bringing him up again because he inspired this post, said meninists are annoyed they don’t get to see their kids after the divorce, which he trivialised and I respectfully disagree with him there – in the exception of scenarios where the father is an abusive figure, he should be able to see his children – I do not believe he should have any right over them that the mother does not by any means but divorcee dads shouldn’t be generalised as a bad lot – I’d agree a father shouldn’t be allowed to see his kids if he was likely to abuse them or fill their head with toxic meninist nonsense, but on the grounds I wouldn’t allow anyone abusive or toxic near children in general. Meninism is bitterment, it is rage against social change and a club built upon a warped love of a lost world ruled by muscle cars, beer adverts and women being live-in maids.
In summary then – believe in the fair treatment of all genders and equal opportunities for all regardless of their genitalia? Feminist. Believe in the idea that this world is shaped by humanity and we should be good people just because we should be, not because of a promised afterlife? Humanist. Believe that your female friends should just sleep with you already because you’re a great guy? Meninist. If you have a religion you follow, you can’t be a humanist and thus you can’t say “I’m not a feminist, I’m a humanist” because humanism is a belief system, it’s akin to saying you’re not a feminist and a Christian but you are a Christian and a Pagan. The fight for gender equality is feminism, the belief in the agency of humanity is humanism, the bitter resentment towards women for wanting equal pay and the right to an abortion if needed is meninism. Ok? Ok
Glad we made that clear